Coping with urges, managing thoughts, and seeking ways to move forward in recovery are all part of the process. It is difficult to cope with setbacks, no matter who you are, but especially when you are new in recovery. Setbacks are a real bummer, but they are also part of life. They happen to everyone. If you learn how to cope, it builds hope and resolve for the future.
What Not to Do
When there are setbacks, it can be easy to regress to negative thinking. If you want to focus on positive momentum forward, it helps to not do the following:
- Tell yourself another time is better. There is no better time than now, even if you think there is going to be. Waiting for alignment of the planets is not a good plan.
- Blame it on others. Using blame only convinces yourself that you were forced into it. Don’t blame others for your mistakes.
- Tell yourself that you cannot handle recovery. The truth is you can, and you will, handle recovery. The choice is not to give up but to keep going and focus on what is going right.
- Tell yourself you’re not ready yet. If you are there right now, you are there for a reason. There is no better time to talk yourself into the moment than right now.
Deal with Setbacks Effectively
When you are struggling with setbacks, it helps to have a counterbalance of what to tell yourself instead of what you really think or want to say. The truth is you are better than this and you can overcome it, with the right mindset:
- Take personal responsibility. Don’t cop out or blame others for situations. Admit where you messed up, own it, and move on.
- Learn from the setback. It’s not a loss if you learned something. There are relapse prevention plans for a reason. Speak to someone who can help you learn some lessons and move forward.
- Don’t look at yourself as a failure. Lapses and other failures are events and not indicative of who you are in totality. You are not your mistakes. Make adjustments, move on, and find the good parts of recovery.
- Find clarity and hope rather than challenge. When you walk away from a setback having found clarity and hope, you learned something positive. You did not succumb to peer pressure and you made a habit of doing something better with yourself. You are doing the hard work of recovery, so keep moving forward.
Sound Recovery helps you get present in the moment with our programs, services and resources. We are here to guide you through the steps to recovery. If you are struggling with addiction, let us help. Call us at 561-277-3088 to get started.