To worry definitively means to “give way to anxiety or unease; allow one’s mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles.”. Recovery teaches us to focus on the present moment. We learn to stay in the now and take life one day at a time. Sometimes, we have to take life one single minute at a time. Our brains can get loud and chaotic, full of anxiety and fear. We worry about what we used to do. We worry about what we’re doing now. We worry about what we’re going to do in the future. With all that focus on things we can’t control, we lose concentration on the things we can- whatever is available right here, right now.
Recovery also teaches us not to ignore or evade our feelings. Worry, though troublesome, is not entirely purposeless. It is important to stay mindful of what needs to be done. However, it is counter-productive to be consumed by worry. Learning to live with our emotions, we develop ways to cope. Rather than try to make worry go away, we pick up tools for calling a truce with worrying thoughts. By doing so, we give ourselves permission to live authentically in the state we are in. Simultaneously, we set boundaries with ourselves, not allowing our feelings to dictate our lives.
Here are two more tools for working with worry.
This may seem ridiculous, but approaching worry as a friend takes away a lot of it’s power. By greeting and acknowledging worrying thoughts, they become friendlier instead of antagonistic. We can recognize them over time by naming them; for example, the good friend “worrying about bills”. Investigating, fighting, and trying to stave off worried thinking fuels the thought’s anxious nature. “Kill them with kindness” can be applied here. Your thoughts are not your friend, but they don’t have to know that.
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