One of the reasons people struggle in rehab is because of all the various personalities living in one shared space for a given amount of time. Each person comes from a unique background with a story to tell. The majority of the people would be classed as high functioning with addiction who seem well adjusted but even if they can work and do life while addicted to substances, they are still struggling with addiction. Difficult people exist in rehab and in life. Learn some tips for how to cope as you run across them in life.
What Defines Difficult
It is hard to say what defines ‘difficult’ when it comes to personality or behavioral traits. A person that someone might find difficult will be a wonderful companion to another person. Certain personality traits can mean a person is more likely to be described this way:
- Aggressive or hostile
- Overly secretive or quiet
- Closed minded
- Constantly criticizing
Coping in Rehab
In a rehab setting where you may go to work through addiction and substance use issues can bring people from all walks of life. However, you may share some of the same parts of an addictive personality. This should not mean you over-identify with them but that they will usually have a few of the same traits as you that come with addiction:
- High tolerance for deviant behavior
- Believe they deal with excessive stress
- Value nonconformity
- Depressive issues
- Insecure in relationships
- Low self esteem
- Struggles with delayed gratification
The personality conflicts that arise may come from realizing you are in the same boat for a reason and share similar traits. Some of these traits can be seen in people who are not addicted to substances, as well. This can be helpful in learning how to cope with challenges in relationships with difficult people at home, work, or the outside world at large.
How to Deal
The rehab environment is a microcosm of the world. It is easier to deal with challenges when there are facilitators (counselors) to support the transition. Unless you live in a cave afterwards, you likely will be around people of all kinds. If you cannot deal with difficult people you may struggle in many areas of life in recovery. Interpersonal relationships can be a stumbling block, so here’s how to deal:
- You won’t like everyone (that’s ok)
- Respect and common courtesy should always be expected of everyone everywhere
- Leave room for the possibility of growth
- Figure out what is being triggered and cope with it
- Avoid controversial conversations with people
- Don’t feed your inner cynic
- Practice meditation and loving kindness to everyone, no matter the circumstances
Trying these things in rehab can translate to the real world and support your journey of recovery for the long haul.
Sound Recovery gives you the tools you need to figure out how to become a better person in the real world in recovery. We support your journey by helping you find out what triggers you and support your journey. If you are struggling with addiction, let us help. Call us at 561-277-3088 to get started.