Resentment really just hurts the person who harbors hard feelings, especially in recovery. During detox and recovery, you will feel lots of emotions, including resentment. Built up over years, these can really drag you down but there are ways to release them so you can be free to heal from addiction.
Why it Happens
You might feel resentment bubble to the surface in recovery. It is nothing but a trap, a cycle of reliving past experiences in a way that impacts your mental and spiritual health. Recovery is the best time to learn how to let go of negative feelings and heal relationships but it takes time to learn this new habit. It is easy to pretend problems don’t exist in the bubble of addiction, including the trauma inflicted on those around you. Resentment can simmer for years, only to surface when you finally come up for air. Addiction crowds out so many other thoughts, feelings and emotions but now you are faced head on with reality. It is normal to feel resentments but you don’t have to linger with them for eternity.
Learning to Let Go
If you want to let go of resentments, the first step is to overcome harmful feelings. Anxiety, depression, and anger during recovery can be harmful. Take a long, hard look at yourself and figure out what is going on. Identify the source of the issue and start letting it go.
Create a list
Sit down and make a list. Write out all the people you deceived, wronged, and hurt. Don’t forget to include anything that hurt your feelings and anytime you felt rejected, betrayed or abandoned. You will turn your list into a goodbye for those resentments and it will feel great (even if it doesn’t feel awesome in the short term).
Practice cognitive behavioral techniques
Hungry, angry, lonely, and tired (HALT) are signs you are struggling. It is time to stop and address the situation right this instant before things go off the rails. When you can learn how not to indulge in addictive behavior such as resentment, you will learn to forgive yourself and make the choice to not let it happen again. It takes learning some cognitive behavioral tools such as acknowledging the cycle of addiction, realizing the lingering resentment, and learning to move on.
Self-care is so important but you may not know forgiveness is part of self-care. Many resentments build from wrongs you commit against yourself, of turning to substances for relief to choose addiction over family.
Learning to let go and forgive yourself can take you far in recovery. By letting yourself deal with resentment head on, you can move forward and finally heal on the recovery journey.
Recovery is a choice. Make the best choice of self care for yourself today by calling Sound Recovery. We are here to provide you with tools and resources for recovery. You will learn how to deal with resentments, forgive yourself, and heal broken patterns and relationships. Set yourself up for success by calling us to get started with our premier treatment program: 561-277-3088