Fear of intimacy can ruin relationships. People crave connection and may learn it is safer to keep others an an emotional arm’s length. Keeping people at an arm’s length is counterproductive and can lead to destructive attachment or intimacy disorders. Find out how to get back on your feet again after rejection.
An intimacy disorder is a mental health condition whereby a person has difficulty establishing close or intimate relationships with other people. Intimacy disorders are believed to be caused by both genetic and environmental factors. If a person has an intimacy disorder, they probably struggle with letting their guard down and being vulnerable with another person.
Fear of Intimacy
The fear of intimacy is sometimes referred to as aphenphosmphobia, which is the fear of being touched. Philophobia is the fear of emotional attachment or falling in love. For many people, intimacy problems can be traced back to experiences in their formative years such as abandonment or neglect by a parent, losing a parent, or suffering abuse at the hands of a parent. People who are wounded develop trust issues. Attachment issues result from a person having their heart broken and being scared of ever putting themselves in a position of being hurt again.
Building Emotional Maturity
Intimacy is at the core of a close, personal relationship. It is an emotional connection reserved for one’s ‘special person.’ There are many types of intimacy:
- Emotional intimacy: take off the mask worn in public when you are with people you care about. Share feelings, both good and bad, without fear of judgment. It is a safe space in the mind where you feel truly loved, understood, and appreciated.
- Sexual intimacy: a direct expression of love and affection. A sensual connection for both people to feel together, which builds emotional bonds.
- Intellectual intimacy: sharing through constant communication. This includes sharing opinions and ideas around parenting, politics, finances, health, and debating things with your partner.
- Spiritual intimacy: spirituality is the feeling you are part of something greater than yourself. Spiritual intimacy involves sharing this spiritual or religious connection, whether in a church or mountaintop. Experiencing these moments together elevates the connection between partners.
- religious connection, whether it’s in a church or on a mountaintop. Experiencing such grand moments together elevates the connection between partners.
Sound Recovery helps you get present in the moment with our programs, services and resources. We are here to guide you through the steps to recovery. If you are struggling with addiction, let us help. Call us at 561-277-3088 to get started.